Quote: The way I see it, while I wait out the time between filing and finality, I am fluctuating between:
1. Showing him in some grand way that I do want a future with him (this being based on his issues with our previous R and the results I'd gotten from pursuit and throwing all my emotions out there -- in a good healthy way, not the other way).
2. Continue living my own life and letting him wonder what I am up to. Letting him do whatever he's going to do without any opinion, input or interference from me.
Hi Wonder. When I read this I didn't see it as a "ork in the road" decision but rather a Plan A (or #1) & a Plan B (#2) in that order. In order to be effective tho, both plans can't be in play at the same time or jump back and forth between them. Plan A must be throughly explored ... all options under the plan exhausted before moving onto Plan B. Once you move forward with Plan B, it won't work to go back to Plan A again. That's why going totally "dark" is considered the LRT. Atho, IMO, the ultmatium qualifies to be the LRT only to be offered when you can truely accept living with the consequence of their decision that they are being press to make in their current state of mind. (... and BTW it sounds like Betsy is there).
Well, I babbled on again, but basically Wonder I don't see it as an either/or, but a steady progression of a course of action to follow. In that case, the question becomes have you executed all options you know of in Plan A and let it play out to the point in time where you know that's as far as H is willing to take the R.
This is the point I'm contemplating whether I am at or not? I feel I have exhausted all options available to me in Plan A and now wondering if given any more time if she will ever change her perspective? Once at the point where you are convinced that the outcome won't be altered in a more positive result, then its time to consider Plan B and you are one step closer to knowing you are doing everything possible to giving you the best possible outcome.
