Advice on my Scenario Pt. 21 - Garden in my Bucket

[OrangeK]

For the love of God Orange, what do you want? What is it you want from us!?

Nothing Ginger. I just feel like Ive asked a lot of the same questions and gotten a lot of the same answers.
Its just time for a break, relax. Jeeze.

People have taken the time out their busy days to help you, from experience, to prepare yourself on what to expect from your W, how to protect yourself, and most importantly, how to protect your son!

They do. And i appreciate that. I have also stated my appreciation for this Several times, to several people. Including you Ginger. I have used the advice I have gotten here, much to my benefit. Esp. regarding detachment
What I dont appreciate is being crucified anytime I should (GOD FORBID). Disagree with someone. This board is not supportive of free thinking.
Im supposed to just blindly follow all advice, not establish my own views or opinions, accept people making assumptions about aforementioned opinions and be a robotic yes man?
No thanks.

You want us to tell you everything is going to fine and she'll come back? We can't do that, because we don't know.

Clearly you breeze my posts Ginger, evidently looking for things to berate me about.
I have said 1000 times and Ill say it again
I DONT EFFING WANT HER BACK.
Just because i have a day where i miss what i had doesnt mean i want to dive back into the deep end of the abuse pool.
I was born at night but not last night. Forgive me for mourning the loss of what i thought would be my entire life.
Sometimes, God forbid. I have FEELINGS! Imagine that?
SHe is a stupid, immature, lying C**T. Plain and Simple.
I. DONT. WANT. HER. BACK.
I hope i made that clear this time.

We can only tell you what to do to keep yourself in the best position to have that happen. ANd you keep yourself in the best position by coparenting, by, making sure you protect yourself financially and custody wise. And how to live your life within the realms of your current position. That is your best chance of saving your marriage or beginning a new one with her. There is nothing beyond that you can do. But this is the best bet you have.

I dont want a new beginning or my old life. If she got deported I would throw a fekkin party Ginger.
I dont plan on working on co parenting with her because she is never going to willing do anything that doesnt directly benefit her.
Speaking to her is pointless, as far as I am concerned she is the robot i need to go to court with. The woman i though i knew is dead to me. Shes a S**tty mother, a crappy person, and a toxic bottom feeder. I want nothing to do with that.

You want us to tell you she isn't going to try to screw you in the divorce? You want us to tell you she has no chance of winning your petition? So you want us to lie to you to make you happy?

Not even going to dignify this with a response. See above.

When something legally happens, you tell us to focus on that, we tell you, from experience what you should watch out for, and then you get mad?

Again, making assumptions on my mood. thanks. Never got mad. Just said my state is obviously doing things differently.
People jump all over telling me how much i didnt get screwed. Well if i got such a boon of a divorce, given my situation, then perhaps we should all be writing our congresspeople to change divorce law because the compacency of how biased the process is makes me SICK.

Maybe what 60% of what you are doing isn't going to benefit your sitch. Why would you want us to tell you otherwise if it isn't going to help? Did you come here to learn or to be right?

To learn. And I have.
Detachment game is getting far far stronger.
thanks to help ive gotten here, AND THANKED AND ACKNOWLEDGED PEOPLE FOR PROVIDING.

Orange, there is no winning with you. The only way you are going to feel anything is helpful is if they tell you what you want to hear. And that certainly isn't going to make your sitch any better.

I could say the same Ginger, you seem to look forward to and deliberately seek out debates with me and opportunities to tell me how wrong I am.
Again, thanks for making assumptions about what I want without actually asking my opinion.
Way to go.

I think you should keep posting, take in the advice, admit when you have room for improvement, and get over yourself.

Funny. I cant recall you ever saying you have room for improvement, and you seem to really get ruffled when someone doesnt agree with your advice.

Otherwise, maybe you are right. This board isn't going to benefit you.

Just because you aren't hearing what you want, doesn't mean the advice isn't helpful

Interesting, as you seem so viemently frustrated that YOU arent hearing what YOU want from me.
Why is that Ginger?