I think we are close in age. I am 51 and I put you in the last half of 40’s. Story if I am wrong... I mean it was a typo, I put you in the first half of 40’s.
Going with your gut. I liked your title and understood you meaning. Lead by your convictions and beliefs not feelings, yep follow your gut.
Awareness is a big first step, be patient more will be revealed with time. Btw I am not sure it’s you that needs to dig out of that hole.
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
