Thanks for the input. I more or less already do that. I'll just take out my worn patience shovel and keep digging until I decide if I want to order a new one or not!

I came back here as sometimes posting clears my thinking. Probably due to having to formulate my thoughts before writing. But maybe my threads can serve to show others how long this process is and to show that limbo is survivable.

Best wishes everyone

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together