Has it gone too far?

[ovrrnbw]

Don't lie to your kids, but don't rubs their noses in it.

As for changing an arrangement that sets a pattern for future custody issues, consult a lawyer. I don't think you want to agree to only having the kids sometimes, especially while still married.

If she "is filing", that means she hasn't yet. It's not something you can control, so try your best to focus your efforts elsewhere.

As for the one word answers and their productivity, I really don't know. A DB coach might have better advice. If she wants more than a quick response, why is she texting in the first place?