Patience, DB, Detach... piecing or divorce

[Did]

I said - That's nice of you thank you. I'll see how I feel in the morning but I have some work to do and may just pick Ariel up and get to the gym. Hope you guys have a nice night. Then she mentioned our dog and some medicine for him l said I hope he’s ok and offered to split the cost.

I want to explain myself but even writing it here I know that’s the wrong move. I’m not just trying to be her friend or gay friend as Sandi has said... my instincts are to say something like that to her.

But just let consistent actions speak, right? Don’t hang out with her, let her miss me don’t be available. I just wonder about if / when we should spend time. Is it if / when she wants to date or Not unless she says she wants to work on the marriage?

Typing it out here really helps... I think it would be when she chooses to work on us. And until then dB, detach, gal, 180s

Thanks to all who have chimed in on my sitch.