I find the more time i spend here posting the more time i spend thinking of her. The worst is behind me, and i dont often get much in the way of responses anymore, and 60% of what I do get basically tells me im wrong or that im about to get porked by my EX in court.
I have found the frequency and quality of helpful exchanges has phased out and begun to die off.
For the love of God Orange, what do you want? What is it you want from us!?
People have taken the time out their busy days to help you, from experience, to prepare yourself on what to expect from your W, how to protect yourself, and most importantly, how to protect your son!
You want us to tell you everything is going to fine and she'll come back? We can't do that, because we don't know.
We can only tell you what to do to keep yourself in the best position to have that happen. ANd you keep yourself in the best position by coparenting, by, making sure you protect yourself financially and custody wise. And how to live your life within the realms of your current position. That is your best chance of saving your marriage or beginning a new one with her. There is nothing beyond that you can do. But this is the best bet you have.
You want us to tell you she isn't going to try to screw you in the divorce? You want us to tell you she has no chance of winning your petition? So you want us to lie to you to make you happy?
When something legally happens, you tell us to focus on that, we tell you, from experience what you should watch out for, and then you get mad?
Maybe what 60% of what you are doing isn't going to benefit your sitch. Why would you want us to tell you otherwise if it isn't going to help? Did you come here to learn or to be right?
Orange, there is no winning with you. The only way you are going to feel anything is helpful is if they tell you what you want to hear. And that certainly isn't going to make your sitch any better.
I think you should keep posting, take in the advice, admit when you have room for improvement, and get over yourself.
Otherwise, maybe you are right. This board isn't going to benefit you.
Just because you aren't hearing what you want, doesn't mean the advice isn't helpful
