Hi OrangeK, that is really bad if your wife pulled your son's hair to teach him a lesson. There must be some intermediary who could raise issues like these to her. If she's neglecting him and has such poor parenting skills that she resorts to pulling his hair then even your best efforts to counter her bad behavior won't be enough. Someone like her parents should intervene but it sounds like there's not really much you can do. It's so sad. I feel terrible for your son.

Why is your time as a regular ending? Are you going to try a new approach?