Quote: Maybe that's one of the reasons our Hs went looking elsewhere. They wanted to be needed and reassured. I've had to face that one square in the mirror.
Mooka, did your H say this? My H and I talked about this while he was the beginning stages of EA. He later said he wondered if he was in part looking for that. But that he chose to look for it outside his M instead of asking his W for it (and also after he began to ask his W for it) is a separate issue, IMO.
The independence is a big part of who I am and originally H was very attracted to/proud of that in me. So I suspect that underneath it was more other factors... actually I think Shirley Glass sums up my H quite well. Me too, for that matter.
I hope my communication skills are getting good. Thanks! I have been working on that.
I know many people like them around here, but I'm not a big fan of the M-V books. They remind me of the Bridget Jones books-- my response is too often "who are these women??" But then, my H is pretty Venus-like in some ways.
I picked up that tidbit because I have a bad habit of overexplaining things (not that anyone reading my posts needs to be told this, LOL). It bugs H to no end, too.
Sure would be nice if "growth" was a place you could drive to and turn off the car, huh? Unfortunately -- or rather fortunately -- this road never really ends.
wonder
p.s. Anyone else noticing they get really introspective when they have PMS?
