Detaching / Dbing... Can I get to Piecing?

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Sandi- drop the emotional rope. I've been told she will only come around if I dont care about her. So thats what I have to do this is the part that seems counter-intuitive. But I will do it. What matters is what works.

Steve- NMMNG I'm reading again. Maybe youre right regard to me having a bad case of nice guy syndrome. Probably was a mistake but W is sick I went and picked up D3 and took her to the park for a couple hours. W had time to rest I got to spend time with D3 when I have work at night this week so only can have 1 overnight with my parents coming up to get her to bed.

I am doing GAL activities for me. Working out, hiking, meditating, going out, getting back into playing lacrosse traveling with friends. Going to the beach this weekend and booked a trip to Hawaii in October.

She does not bring up D at all but I understand this is because Im paying her money. She has no reason to since shes getting supported. She says she is confused says she doesnt know what she wants etc. It seems like BS. She has said that for a long time. Human nature to want what you can't have. No more hugs or touching or any of that. Just be happy around her but no pursuit whatsoever. If she wants to give me a hug either do the 1 arm pat on the back or just say no thanks.

If she asks about me paying her back when she bought home goods stuff using money I paid her out of support just say no?

I agreed to pay support for three months which will be through Sept, only one more payment. She has researched starting her business and seems concerned about the up front expenses. I made no guarantee or agreement that the support would continue after 3 months. She says it cant just end. The mediation attorney said think of it as child support. If we do divorce she would be entitled to money from my IRA / rental property etc. If she wanted to go after everything... After September Im not sure what I will do.

Consult attorney? When I brought up maybe we should just divorce a month or two ago she gets all sad and says is that what you want.

We are basically acting as if divorced but on good terms now. I won't reach out to contact her except for the time I will pick up D3 etc.

Time to man up, sack up... No More Mr Nice Guy!