Hi Wonder!
Trish's 2 by 4 was a good one! Kinda like my nerf ones! She has an excellent point about the AVOIDANCE and it is always good to hear from a recoverd conflict avoider!

I know avoidance of conflict has a lot to do with my path to a D. In fact, I still see H and I avoiding conflict with each other! I guess neither of us likes to confront the other!! Such a dangerous pattern!

I could have written your last thread myself! I have gotten better with conflict avoidance with friends and at work, but for some reason, it is the "dance" that H and I do!!! I have a few good friends that are definitely NOT conflict avoiders and they are great sounding boards when I feel an "attack" coming on!!

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The uncertainty at the end of my post is that I am uncertain about a lot of things right now, method-wise.

Do I want him to think I am moving on? I really don't know. I think he does think that's what I am doing because it's pretty clear I have my own life.


I struggle with this too. Do I want him as a friend? Does he want me as a friend? Or do we just forget that the other person even exists??! Hard to do in one way, but the easiest choice for two conflict avoiders..........

I guess tiem will tell. We are back with our old friend PATIENCE....another thing I am still working on developing!!!

You sound good Wonder, and I think your questions are normal at this point. If it makes you feel better, they are very similar to the questions I have been asking myself. I usually can count on answers here so we'll have to keep looking!

Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)