Detaching / Dbing... Can I get to Piecing?

[Parkema]

Hi Did,

I could be wrong here but I don’t think anybody on these boards would suggest you go NC, it’s more about you going forwards with her there but in the background.
Pursuit is a massive NO NO but this is where the counter-intuitive aspect of DR comes into play, get more interesting doing your GAL activities and she’ll get curious plus now your concentration is elsewhere...

I suggest if you can keep the channels open but one way her to you, being pleasant and friendly isn’t a crime but you need boundaries if there’s disrespect walk or better still ask her to don’t stand for it
No R talk especially if there is an OP involved, learn to see the traps coming before they come and dissipate the tension by validating if warranted or again end the convo.

Smiling is an amazing weapon in your armory (how dare he be happy) and keeping cool, calm and classy in the face of madness also gets results!
Confidence is attractive but for your next chapter NOT this one if the new you interests her all well and good, work on you exercise MIND and body and stop the obsession. We all understand how hard that is BUT it’s not helping your cause in fact it’s hindering and acting as a push against you stop with the push behavior’s and let it go.

Mark.