Yes wife seems off the reservation to me...but then seems and acts like all is good to her family, mutual friends, etc. It does get maddening at times where I think how the heck did we get to this spot, but I know if my mind stays there for any length of time, it will drive me crazy. So I redirect focus back onto me and continue my path. (But how I wish she would entertain hearing someone that doesn’t have a biased view of our sitch...yes still not fully detached)
Did your S trying to reach out to your side of the fence at any point? W reached out to SIL last week and talked extensively about our MR and tried to get justification for her actions, or it was presented to me that way. My SIL has been a positive support through my journey and always appreciate her viewpoint from a female perspective. But now as it’s progressed to 5 months, I know I can’t keep leaning on there support or any of our mutual friends as I know this can be exhausting to them and I won’t subject them to take sides.
I remain optimistic and have resolve, but know those 2 things can equate to expectations, which I know I can’t have to be be outcome independent.
Me - 38 W-37 S6 M 10 years T 13yrs BD 3/18 W moves out 4/18 W files 7/18
