KitCat, thanks for your encouragement. I really appreciate it. My husband was here again today and watched our daughter while I went to another social event. The plans to visit his brother apparently fell through which was good. I don't know. My intuition tells me my husband no longer wants a divorce and wants to eventually fix things. Day-after-day there are many small subtle signs that things are headed in the right direction. There are at least five or six more things from today that signify we're on the path towards reconciling (but not there yet). That doesn't excuse anything that my husband has done and he may file for divorce tomorrow for all I know, but if he wants to reform himself and demonstrate change through actions over time then I could see us reconciling. Honestly speaking I'm not sure if I'll ever reach a point where I no longer wish to reconcile because he's the father of my child who used to be the greatest guy I ever met, but I no longer need him or rely on him. Moving here was my way of moving on. That marked the end for me. Next summer if I take our daughter to Europe we could potentially stay there for a long time so then we'll be even further away. I mentioned more distant plans to take our daughter to one of the Gulf countries someday where I can work tax-free and our daughter can go to a good international school and my husband said "we have to plan it then so I can come too...." I still have no idea what will happen but I do appreciate you sharing your opinion that you think reconciliation could be possible someday (under certain circumstances). I'll definitely share the outcome on this forum whenever we reach that point.
Steve, I wasn't sure. He didn't proceed with the plans to meet his family but I thought I read somewhere in the DB book that accepting family invitations is ok? I would have considered going because I didn't realize that could be cake eating but I did already have plans today. I went out to the event I had already planned to attend so it worked out ok. I'll have to be more careful about detecting cake eating....I tried really hard to stop it last fall but I may not be noticing it as much now. Thanks for that heads up.
