your behavior is affecting him, and his is changing. He is testing still.
When he claims that it kills him to see you sad you can just tell him it's fine to get his stuff. He's hanging on by dragging it out. By you not correcting him and saying your fine, his assumption of your sadness is confirmed.
Maybe you say "yea I'm a little sad, but what can I do?" and shrug your shoulders. Everyone wants to be wanted. They want people to need and miss and cry for them - even the people they are betraying.
Why are we humans so messed up...
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
