W let me know that she plans on filing. I knew this would be coming eventually. Shes built a relationship with another man and his child over 1.5 years. Yes it hurts, but i wasnt shocked at all. This was obviously in the making for a long time. W basically dated this man and tested the watrrs out for a long time while being married to me, and then decided she prefers the life she lives with OM better.
GAL has been a little up and down for me. Im spending a lot of time working on my career future the last few days, but my mind seems to always wander back to W and our sitch. Setting boundaries with her didnt go well, it ended up with her letting me know that she plans on filing and that our bed isnt our "marital bed". That just blew my mind. Actually, thats probably what i should have expected? They wont respond well to boundaries, but i have to stick to my guns.
I guess i have to remember the "paper Tigress" analogy, and to remember that i dont have anything to lose anyhow. She lied (i know i know) up until the last couple months about wanting to work on th M, which i knew wasnt true, and always said splitting wasnt what she wanted. So this is a change, and i can see R with OM is in overdrive. From the outside it seems they are half way down the aisle.
Sorry for venting. I have some good days and some bad as expected.
Last edited by equalzr; 08/05/1804:55 PM.
Together:20 years M:3 years Me:40 WW:40 S15 A suspected:5/17 AC:5/18 BD:8/18 WW in full blown R w/ OM Still under same roof
