Hope this is the last and final of my episode post divorce. I am done with my divorce. Its been almost a month since i posted and moving on gracefully meeting new people and finding a better more respectable life out there.
Just a small recap of what happened prior and below updates from ex -
Me and my ex recently divorced a 6 year sex starved marraige against my wishes.( problems were on both sides with eventually she shutting me off and claiming i may be gay or impotent and her super non trust issues) I was amicable until the end. Did not leave any what IFs. I could see an emotional ex on the D day however she still proceeded with the D. In fact she had tried to reach out to me with some emotional BS support a day earlier to D. I had already blocked all her contact through text and messaging and had not told her. She called my friend to check on me the day before divorce and adviced him to ensure i turn up to the court the final day and "set her free". She was kinda worried i may not show up and thought i was an emotional wreck. While in fact i was solid as a stone. Anyways we are divorced now.
Despite the fact that i repeatedly told her that she does not owe me anything financially and it was all settled out of no contest divorce, 10 days into post divorce I Got another ridiculous email from my ex - asking how i am.doing. says she has some dues she owes me and she would be grateful if i can take it back. And asked me to let her know. We had dissolved this marraige with me giving up all her assets for herself. Did not contest anything although i could have claimed 50% of what she had and alimony support for upto 2 years. She was ok with it. And i was crystal clear a f%$#ing million times to her and her ridiculous family that i dont want her money and kept my word. She was ok then.. why this drama now again? I did not bother to respond and just let it go.
Few days ago got another email from ex asking me to submit proof of loss of insurance coverage from my employer. I wonder why this was not asked the other day? This is the first thing usually anyone from HR or other company asks to switch over insurance carrier. Anyways I did not respond again. However, I already called the carrier and they will be mailing the document. I will in-turn mail that document out to her.
Since I did not respond to her latest insurance loss of coverage email, she was frustrated and sent me an email and asked me to stop being passive aggressive and judged that i may not be interested in sending the healthcare loss of coverage document and asked me to behave like mature adults keeping personal issues aside.. She also said she needs the tax filing document and she has the right to own it. I responded first saying i was neither being angry or inconsiderate and no passive aggressive like she claims. i had already requested the document and it takes 7 to 10 business days. If she wants she can expedite it by calling the carrier. And also attached the tax filing. I said that she had never asked for the tax doc. I also said I would be dispatching her marital requests to.her home soon so her parents would receive it. Since she brought legality into question, i asked her to come through her attorney if it makes her feel comfy and stop being judgemental towards me. She responded thanking for the doc and was expecting me to send a response to her email and being more considerate. And that she only requested the tax document because she wanted it for future purposes. I said I was not being inconsiderate just for not able to respond to her. I dont need see a reason for us to communicate in the future ever. We should act like 'mature adults' and behave what is required for us to be like legally divorced mature adults. I assume this was the last document she wanted. If there is anything else let me know what it is. So i can send you the required right away. If not, i assume We have nothing in between us now. I wish you happiness for your future and life. She responded saying she is not trying to invade my private space but I sound very harsh. And that We were once together and there was a pious relation we shared. At least I dont disrespect that. Anyways wished me good luck and said Take care I responded - Nothing is harsh that i mentioned. Everything is practical and I am not disrespecting anything or anyone here. It is a hard reality that mature adults should come in terms with. Past is done. That is what life is.
Moving on with my Life! Life is beautiful! Life is Short!
M(35) F(35) T(6) M(6) BD 10/25/2017 S 3/12/2018 LRT 4/3 D Served 4/30 D Signed (Me) 5/1 D filed with Court 5/21 D Final 7/6 Moving on with life and doing lot of GAL since 7/6 :-)
She is trying to be involved in my life somehow or the other. i have clearly blocked her from voice communications or texts. Despite knowing that she had still left a VM asking to return a call and now these email claims of passive aggressive behavior when i was simply minding my business. Someday dumpers should learn that they cannot twist and turn things however they want. Accept and move on without creating much drama. They called out the divorce. They got it. So why not be happy and move forward as they intended to?
M(35) F(35) T(6) M(6) BD 10/25/2017 S 3/12/2018 LRT 4/3 D Served 4/30 D Signed (Me) 5/1 D filed with Court 5/21 D Final 7/6 Moving on with life and doing lot of GAL since 7/6 :-)
Sometimes they think they knew what they wanted but didn't. Likely she has been confronted with reality and you are giving her another dose by not being on string for her. She doesn't like the loss of control, that is what the passive-aggressive accusation is all about, trying to control you further.
I wouldn't change a thing, other than just ignore her accusations. Only address logistics. "I mailed your requested doc on x/x/xx."
All business all the time.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Yes. I dont plan on communicating any further by email as well.she will receive a physical copy when i send it.
In fact she has even forgot to renew her vehicle registration and change ownership to her name (my car she is still dtiving). I got a renewal notice and I promptly corrected the address and sent it back to the license beureau. Despite telling this many times even on the day of divorce. I wont be informing or reminding her anymore. Let her get caught by the cops and be fined or whatever.
M(35) F(35) T(6) M(6) BD 10/25/2017 S 3/12/2018 LRT 4/3 D Served 4/30 D Signed (Me) 5/1 D filed with Court 5/21 D Final 7/6 Moving on with life and doing lot of GAL since 7/6 :-)
Nutcrac, one word of caution. Ownership still being in your name opens you up to liability. I would highly suggest you follow up on that to protect yourself legally.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
Well the car is still under joint ownership. I submitted my power of attorney for transfer a long time ago. and i guess by now it should have expired as well. I am not going to do anything if she comes back and asks it again. Her issue.. she needs to sort it out now.
M(35) F(35) T(6) M(6) BD 10/25/2017 S 3/12/2018 LRT 4/3 D Served 4/30 D Signed (Me) 5/1 D filed with Court 5/21 D Final 7/6 Moving on with life and doing lot of GAL since 7/6 :-)
Well the car is still under joint ownership. I submitted my power of attorney for transfer a long time ago. and i guess by now it should have expired as well. I am not going to do anything if she comes back and asks it again. Her issue.. she needs to sort it out now.
Again, the problem is that if she runs a red light and takes out a family of 4, they can sue you as a co-owner of that vehicle. Get your name off of it, stat.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
hmm... i see what you are saying. I will try to get this addressed ASAP.
M(35) F(35) T(6) M(6) BD 10/25/2017 S 3/12/2018 LRT 4/3 D Served 4/30 D Signed (Me) 5/1 D filed with Court 5/21 D Final 7/6 Moving on with life and doing lot of GAL since 7/6 :-)
