Jim, sounds like things are proceeding as expected. What ever happened to the child support issue?
It's interesting that you recognize your wife wasn't a very good wife. It is kind of amazing to hear that she was bedridden for so many years, depressed, didn't clean much, and now after separating she didn't respond to all of your positive changes, yet you'd still be open to reconciling. It's hard to imagine there are men who love their wife that much because I was a pretty good wife and my husband left me without hesitation. I still hope your wife comes to her senses someday. It is possible for someone to suddenly wake up or realize what they've done or how they've been. It could happen after they have a certain dream, or after another significant event in their life, or when they hit their lowest point. Anything could still happen but it seems you're coping fairly well given what a long marriage you had and how hard it must be to separate after everything you and your wife have been through together. I hope you're able to keep moving forward imagining what a good wife would be like and hopefully finding one someday!
