Detaching / Dbing... Can I get to Piecing?

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Thanks everyone for the input. Yes I was pursuing and making a ton of mistakes up until a few months ago. I guess there has definitely been some improvement. The improvement comes and then she waivers. Then I have screwed it up. I just have to be stronger. I am committed to doing what works even if it feels opposite... what it feels like to me doesnt really matter.

There were many times in the past which stopped as I started DBing when I asked to come see D3. Also I work and she doesnt so my time is limited with D3 because I am the only one earning money. Plus she wants this separation... I guess these reasons mean nothing... it is what it is.

Sandi- Im not blaming your advice just talking about how hard it is for me. As I have read NMMNG almost 2x through now. If its hard or youre scared - do it. So, just tell her no dont need to explain myself. Stand firm. Let her be mad and explode - stand strong. In doing IC I have talked in depth about wanting to keep the peace. I guess that is a nice guy tendency...

Steve- I read some of Black8's posts - ouch. It could always be worse. I also read Ithurts posts and he is watching movies and cuddling with his wife when they divorced 4 years ago! Crazy life. I just feel so strongly that most people can work through these issues and people just think divorce is the way out. Im really strongly opposed to that. But I still feel like I have to accept that I am going to end up divorced.

Im trying to detach, GAL, etc... I just booked my trip to Hawaii in October so that's something to look forward to. I tried to go with W in the past well I'll do it just for me this time around.

She texts me - what did D3 have for dinner. Ordered her fun pool / beach toys then describes all toys. I was brief, food she ate / good idea on toys that will be fun at the pool... not going to text her unless she reaches out to me first.

Keep the advice coming, thanks again