Had to meet my W at her new place last night to do our child exchange. Its now at 5 months since BD and W has preoccupied all of her time doing house projects at her rental. She has thus far painted every room, grouted floors, fixed up the lawn, etc. She asked me yesterday to come see some of the things she had been working on while our son was playing outside in the yard. I tried to keep my interactions brief, but did comment that she had become quite the "MS Handy women". W stared to ask about my job and how I've been doing lately. I just said fine and refocused my attention on my S and pressed for him to gather up his things so we could go.
Last week I had mentioned possibly meeting up for dinner while we do exchange, but hadn't brought up since (As if). W last night seemed to press about possibly having us all go get something to eat but I avoided the topic and just said S & I had plans. W had also got me tickets to see Sam Smith concert for xmas which occurs in a couple of weeks. I asked if she could find them and give them to me as I still plan to go. She asked who I would be taking and then mentioned I take my S. I just said that I would like to go and would consider taking S.
Point is my GAL attempts seem to finally starting to getting W interested. As much as I would like to involve her in any and everything that I have going on, I resist and continue to use DB techniques. I continue to focus on detaching with love, but can't get to the point where I'm fully there.
Can anyone offer suggestions on what worked best for them? The more distant and less interactions I have with her I tend to do well, but the moment I see her I take a few steps back and feel as if I have to climb back up the emotional hill.
Me - 38 W-37 S6 M 10 years T 13yrs BD 3/18 W moves out 4/18 W files 7/18
