Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 13, D busted

[PsySara]

Things are continuing to proceed smoothly. WH and I are both a bit overworked (I am moving to another job that lets me work 7 on 7 off for even more pay, yay!) so we mostly just collapse on the couch in the evenings. WH has started to take the advice of my DBing coach and has started spending more time with male friends. Our neighbor is a retired marine and they both have a love of bikes. They go out riding together sometimes and basically just talk guy stuff. WH has bloomed with this healthy relationship. I notice he doesn't try to be the "nice guy" to his coworkers (particularly to females) and overall his confidence has grown in a healthy manner.

Unfortunately because of our work hours we haven't got to spend a lot of time just one-on-one. This week WH wants to sit down with me so we can carve out some time to re-establish intimacy. He knows my LL is Quality Time and he wants to make sure I am getting my emotional needs met. He scheduled himself for a lot of extra shifts to pay off our taxes but as of September he's cutting back to his regular hours. We did manage to have a good amount of family time last weekend. We swam in our pool, ate good food and did some online shopping. WH noticed I was oogling some Louboutins and he surprised me by buying them. I've never owned shoes so expensive so I am almost too intimated to wear them out, lol!

Things aren't perfect but they are good. We still argue over little stuff (chores, kid time, finances) but our method of disagreement has changed dynamics. WH is not defensive and even sometimes shows more patience than I do. He is respectful to me and when I start to shut down he reaches out to make sure he is doing whatever necessary to meet me where I am at. I think when/if I can lower my walls we may reach piecing in the future.