Detaching / Dbing... Can I get to Piecing?

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Sandi I don’t have the answers just putting my feelings out there. I’ve been trying to do what you say and it’s very difficult for me. I appreciate your advice and hope it will continue. As is mentioned on here often it feels counter intuitive. So yea detaching and not talking instead of getting along and spending time together feels like it’s driving us further apart. But I understand how strong the human nature of wanting what you can’t have is.

I’m going to commit to not pursuing not reaching out. DB and detaching. I know mixing her back is not going to work I recognize those tendnencies and fight them.

This text argument yesterday came from me trying to stand up for myself she wanted to come see D3 last night I said too much. Tried to explain myself instead of just being short and saying sorry were at a movie. Explained my whole thought process and what she got out of I think was- you want to be separated so you have it and that’s why we miss our daughter. She shot back you want to put that guilt on me go F yourself I should have never had to make that decision if you weren’t a bad husband. I backtracked apologized even though what’s I said was true.

Just feeling fed up. But I’m going to continue the work and will follow your advice as best I can and I do appreciated the support.