Perfect posts from Sandi, Maika, Steve and ovrrnbw. I really have nothing more to add than to say I agree with them 100%.
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Is it weird that I think it will be awkward at a family event knowing that we are heading to D? Should I ask what she thinks of it? We planned this a while ago before we got to this point.
-Slaps forehead- Ugh. You're talking to her WAY too much. NO you shouldn't ask her that. Who cares how long it's been planned, she just dropped the bomb on you that she's actively working on the D papers. That changes EVERYTHING. CANCEL THE TRIP. Frankly if it's your sister's cabin I would tell her "sorry but since we are no longer a couple you no longer have access to the cabin or my family. I hope you will respect my wishes."
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So, the best thing for me to do from this point on is what? Continue to detach, GAL, follow the rules. Is there anything I should do to get her attention?
-Slaps forehead harder- First of all, START to detach. You haven't even begun that. You are clinging to the rope so tight your knuckles are turning white. Let go! Second, NO there is NOTHING you should do to "get her attention". That would be the OPPOSITE of what you should be doing, which is leaving her ALONE.
