Well, meeting up with other men serves a few different purposes for me. 1) I can have some fun with another person without having to think about my sitch 2) it gives me someone to talk to, bc we had agreed we wouldn't be talking to anyone about what's going on until we get a better idea of what we're doing 3) I think it makes H jealous
Yeah, in retrospect, I shouldn't have commented on his weight. And I need to find more ways to not be pursuish. I think what's really hard is that we both want to be around to put the kids to bed in the evenings, so when we "go out" it's not until after 8. It's just... idk, it's hard.
What about the idea of saying, "it's my night out, so I'm not coming home until late. You can do bedtime routine. When it's your night out, I can do bedtime. It'll be more divorce-like."? What do you guys think?
Your first two purposes could easily be accomplished by doing something with other women. It really seems like you are doing it to make him jealous. It's not good DBing.
As for the bedtime issue, the way you have it worded sounds like you are trying to control him. Better to say, "It's my night out, so I'm not coming home until late. Go ahead and do the bedtime routine without me. On your nights, I can do bedtime by myself if you want."
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
