Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde

[SteveLW]

I am not expert in this area Eryam, but that seems like it is not a sustainable plan. My intuition is that it is better for all involved to just rip the bandaid off rather than trying to pull it off slowly. Also, I am not sure the suggestion is the best thing for the kids. While it would ease your pain, having 1 parent come and another go over and over again just seems like it would be a harder transition on the kids over time.

I want to be gentle about this because I understand how difficult living under the same roof can be (I've been there!), but you should always put what is best for the kids ahead of your own feelings. Yes it is hard but what is best for them? Personally I think kids are happier with both parents living under the same roof, even if the atmosphere is less than ideal. It gives them hope that things are temporary. While moving in and out opposite of the WAS would be a reminder to them, every so often, of just how bad things are.

I am spit balling here, maybe others that have been in the nesting sitch can refute my feelings on the issue. But my gut says that nesting is harder on the kids than inhouse separation or actual separation.