I am so sorry about your shoulder. It may be bothering you because of the weather or even some stressors in your life.

As for your w, I agree w/bttrfly...she expects you to be right where she left you. When she senses you are pulling away, she becomes angry to reel you back in and, of course, you begin to show her a bit of attention and then she's nice again. It's the distancer/pursuer dance. She's very good at it. You might want to read the thread on distancer/pursuer and see if that is going on. You have to be the one to change the dynamics of the dance.

Take care of that shoulder and give the kids big hugs from all of us.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.