It is so not who I am. Treat others how you want to be treated is a rule I have always lived by. This is all so counterintuitive but I will try harder to be less available. I do have a couple dates lined up. Kinda hoping I meet someone I am really into. Just [censored] want the family and W to be passionate about me and us like she used to be. I guess the best way for that to happen is for her to think she can not have me?
Yep believe it or not, your independence and being okay without her is very attractive to her. Yes DBing feels wrong at first. But here is the thing Did, as you get better at GAL, detaching, 180ing and being the best Did you can be, and you start to see her come sniffing around to find out what is different, it gets easier.
DBing is the biggest 180 you can institute. Because pressure and pursuit in 99.5% of all sitches, doesn't work. While it feels like it is what you should do, it drives the WAS away faster and further. DBing makes you the lighthouse. And eventually her curiosity gets the best of her and she wants to come explore the lighthouse.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
