HC: Thank you for the kudos Don on the honesty. I am honest. I can admit when I make a mistake. But I did not think sleeping with him would make him want an R. Not at all. I did this to myself by entertaining a guy who wants nothing. And the sleeping together created a FURTHER distance than there would be otherwise because he wanted to distance. I guess I thought no relationship would be strictly sex and with me putting out all the effort to see each other to have said sex. I feel a little upset with him just with his last comment. But sure, no harm, no foul. I am not painting him to be a bad guy. Tonight I will tell him We should go our separate ways because I have realized I am not OK with a just sex relationship. I will wish him the best and that will be that.
That is kind of what I was trying to say too, but didn't say it well at all. I don't necessarily think HC is a bad guy and what I meant when I said he's showing you who he is is that he was telling you from the get go that he wasn't capable of any relationship stuff and his actions were backing that up. Now the part that I did NOT like was that in his text to you, he put it all back on you. I agree with what GB said about there really wasn't anything there to "end" but for your closure, I think he should have stepped up and just said hey, this isn't working for me, so let's let it go right here (or something to that effect....whatever words actually worked for him). Regardless, the important part is that you are ok with yourself and how you handled things and someone said (Don, I think) don't beat yourself up. It was what it was and you can move forward now with all the GREAT things that are right in front of you.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
