WW-is there hope? Any advise from former WW's

[LANE777]

Hello everyone,
I just read through the replies and yes. You are all correct.

So I thought I would let things ride for a few days. Well yesterday was a good day until I got home. My S14 had taken pictures of all the kids SSN and sent them to W.

My heart sunk a little. She was at work but was also supposed to have kids. Wednesday is the day she gets them back.
8:30 was when she told me she got off work. So about 11 I texted and asked her what was going on. She said " I am closing tonight at 11" So at 11:30 I test "are you off? She replied Not yet why???.... I say "so your supposed to have kids tonight and were you going to tell me they were staying with me???".. she replied " ohI totally forgot. I was thinking its was Tuesday all day.. Sorry!!!. I just let it go.

So today I text " whats the plan for kids" She called and we discussed. Then I asked why she needed the kids SSN's.
She replied that is was for paperwork she is filling out...I said so you are filing? She said " yes, this is what I want and I'm tired of this dragging out and I want it done and over with so I can get on with my life...and I don want to wait any longer and so on so on. She attended a class at our local court house that help people wanting divorce get the paper work started. She said she would fill out what she wanted and then give it to me to look over and the agree or disagree.
She understands the cost of attorneys etc. She was told by the instructor at least 10k to divorce.

At this point I asked if she realizes the effects it will have on our s6 and d10. I asked if she had done any kind of research on the effects of kids. She said no and that she already made up her mind...WW reply.

She said "if you think I am going to come back in a couple months that isn't happening...I actually said " well I don't think I would want to take you back. She said " well then, whats the hold up?"

It really wasn't heated or anything, she was getting a little worked up. Today she is taking my kids to my sisters cabin. While there she is picking up my oldest d15 who had been away for a couple weeks. d15 is mad at W right now and didn't want to ride 2.5 hours back. So I told W that she didn't want to ride back and the other kids are upset at this whole mess.
I guess the whole convo was probably unnecessary. I just wanted a few answers and I guess I got them.

She came to the house and picked up the 3 and acted like nothing was wrong and left. Nothing said at this time accept me saying bye to kids and to drive safe.

W called d15 and asked if it was true that she didn't want to ride back. d15 confirmed that it was true. She wants her mom to know that she is upset with everything and that she knows everything. W got her feelings hurt. She doesn't realize so many people she is effecting.

So its not looking very good for me. I know I need to back way way back now. I assume those papers will be handed to me by next week sometime.

I will be honest, I wasn't expecting her to tell me her and OM were not hanging out anymore. So I really didn't know how to react or what to say. I know I need to think things through better on what not to say etc. Or at least opposite of what I think I should say.

I did mention to her that she just dropped the DB on me just a few weeks ago. And that if she had been planning this for a while she should give me more time to process.

So here I go another day of more bad news. I need some uplifting now and some possible constructive criticism .

This is so hard!!