So, band guy's ex GF was someone he dated for a year and a half, introduced, kids, vacationed together, ect. He felt like everything was good. When they were dating her mother who she was very close to had died. She took it very bad. Something else happened, I forgot what, and she kind of shut down and simply said "I just can't do this right now" not much further explanation and that was it. So, he spun out over it, got pretty depressed over it and is coming back around. I had asked if he was wishing she would come back. He said "I don't even know I would want her right now". he is confused about it for sure. I think my paranoia kicks in from the trauma of everyone I am dating leaving me for someone else. But, yes, Don, he is much more on my playing level than HC is.
I will not rush into anything with him. No insta relationship. Just enjoying the company. He did tell me he was a people person and it does get lonely spending so much time alone, and I feel the same way. But we are having some dates and they are nice. He is not getting dessert anytime soon. But kissing is fun. he is super physical touch like me. But not for just sex. For affection.
HC: Thank you for the kudos Don on the honesty. I am honest. I can admit when I make a mistake. But I did not think sleeping with him would make him want an R. Not at all. I did this to myself by entertaining a guy who wants nothing. And the sleeping together created a FURTHER distance than there would be otherwise because he wanted to distance. I guess I thought no relationship would be strictly sex and with me putting out all the effort to see each other to have said sex. I feel a little upset with him just with his last comment. But sure, no harm, no foul. I am not painting him to be a bad guy. Tonight I will tell him We should go our separate ways because I have realized I am not OK with a just sex relationship. I will wish him the best and that will be that.
What more can I do?
But oh yeah, the house is such a great thing and will take up a lot of my time and thoughts and energy. And I really never thought I would be a single homeowner. I always thought my next house would come with a boyfriend.husband, haha. So big step doing it on my own, and I am proud.
