Can I really do this #5

[Dtrmned]

Sandi,
The new job offer just wasn't enough for me to accept knowing that I was going to have to pay child support and the increase in the cost of living, etc. Very brief discussion with W that talked about the only way it could happen is if we did it together, she was not interested in opening that discussion at all. I passed on the offer and let it go.
The woman she is texting with does live in a neighboring city. But, if she were to go and live there, it is not a favorable school district for our children and it would be about a 45 minute commute each way for her to get the kids back and forth in their current schools.

She is an intelligent woman. Although sheltered by myself, admittedly, from the real world for quite some time, she is not stupid. This is what is so confusing to me!

I do believe that she is just stuck in the fantasy world presently. If she has a plan, she is very devious about her intentions and very good about keeping it hidden. This would have been way outside of her character before, but totally possible now. Unless her intention is to have a very expensive, long legal battle, there just isn't enough money there for her to support herself and there will be much less after as well. I may be very naive in looking at it that way, but it does come down to just math. With her not doing anything at all, our lease coming to term mid 2019, there is a timeline on most of this.

As I said, she is becoming more and more distant over the last couple of weeks, but still surprises me sometimes as well with a reach out here and there. I don't jump at these, but I do recognize them.

I truly don't know what else to say other than if she does have a plan, it must be a good one. If she doesn't, then she is going to be in for a huge shock.

I am very tempted to just draw up the paperwork and get it to her. I don't want this to happen. I still love my W and want to keep our family together, but this almost seems like the last chance I have of getting her to realize the ramifications of her decision. I truly don't want her back just for her own financial security, but I don't know any other way to give her the reality shock needed for her to see how her future will really be. Again, Sandi I may not know of her true intentions and plan and I may be the one totally in the dark.