I think your W has some type of game plan, and is keeping it well hid from you, or she believes you'll have to provide for her. Does that woman she was texting so much, live near? I'm wondering if she has promised to let your W live with her, or made her think she'd take care of her some way. IDK, but it's unusual for a WW not to have some type of plan. I mean, she will believe lies told by the OP, and take chances, but not to have something, is unusual from what I have seen.

If she believes you are going to financially support her, then she's just blowing smoke. She starts the b.s. about getting a job, etc., to make you get up and take care of things. She has no intentions of getting a job. That's why I thought it would wake her up if she was left to manage on her own. As long as you are there to care for her, and support her...….then she can dream of another life all day long.

You never said why you thought your W rejected the idea of moving to a new location. I didn't understand why that was completely tossed away? Have you rejected the offers by the other employers?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!