Gordie 21 going with my gut

[Gordie]

DNJ Gerda Sjohn and MarvinF

Thanks for the encouragement and advice

Sjohn the incident was over food when I made dinner and the main dish was something kids and I love but w does not like which was not an issue during the period in which w was no longer joining family meals but she feels after six months I am still punishing her by doing so

Marvin agree with not following all the ups and downs and God knows that was me for the first year or so which is well recorded in all my threads but feel I am in a different place now where I no longer fear going home or worry about doing things I want which may or may not upset w

The things I am writing about are slower and more deliberate actions not words that are changing not day to day but more month to month which is a very slow process requiring as job reminds patience and more patience than has ever been required of me

I still of course react and over react at times but directionally continue to improve what I can control which is what I am contributing to the current dynamic