Sandi's Reflections - Part 2

[sandi2]

My wife definitely is prideful, selfish(she admits it), and blames me for leaving the door open for her A. This is all so surreal.

I wanted to blame my H for me having an A, too. He was not blameless the downfall of our MR, but there was one person responsible for my A...….her name is Sandi.

Thank you for all the time and candidness you have invested here Sandi.

Well thank you for the kind words.

Oddly enough, Im coming to the point where I realize it would be her job to earn me back if it ever came to that point. I wasnt a bad husband to begin with, and I initially addressed every issue she had with me before I knew she was in a MLC. The MLC explains why none of those changes made her happy, because she doesnt want me to make her happy.

Good point, and that's an example of another reason I decided to write about wayward W's and the differences in them from WAW's. With many WAW's, the H can fix the issues his W had with him, and she's willing to work with him to save the M. However, he could fix every issue the wayward had, and it would not phase her. For years, I would read how these poor LBH's would work so hard at correcting every complaint the WW had, only to see her tell him it did not change her feelings. It usually takes the H completely letting go and moving on, before the WW becomes interested. By then, many H's are over it, and don't want to subject themselves to taking a that chance again.