Ha... you were all so right- one step forward and two back... he is very cold and distant to me today. I half expected this to happen yet it does hurt. Of course, I am not showing that to him.
Its difficult sometimes on this board as you have so many contrasting views and very little or low success rates in achieving a long standing or permanent recon. I look at some peoples advise and its all nice and fluffy and sometimes I feel like the advise I give is less sugar coated than most - but at the end of the day, I have been through this process myself and have experienced the ridiculous highs and lows that accompany it.
However, as we sit here today I am in a favourable position and I know how disconnected from my W I got, in order to provide an environment that would allow her to leave, but have the ability to look back and think (what if I am wrong). We talk about it on a weekly basis so I am aware of what works and what doesn't from both sides.
I did mention yesterday that I believed the cinema trip was a bad idea. It might have been all friendly and innocent to you, however thats to you, not him. To him, it would more than likely still feel like pursuit and same old JLS in a way. By that I mean that it is obvious you still want him back. (I believe you even counted the number of times he kissed you) Which to me personally is the wrong signal to be giving out. Your are still available - which doesn't give the other person any danger signs that you might not actually want to be with him either! - seems counter intuitive but the best way forward without a shadow of a doubt is to create a healthy amount of distance and to act like they are not around anymore - like they have died - force yourself to go into the mode and you will find a part inside of you that will be more of a beacon to him - than any other technique or tips here will achieve. I promise you that.
