Am I coming or going?

[Zues126]

Correct. When you said you hate to end it by text that was very clearly stating that this arrangement wasn't working for you. You made it pretty clear why if it wasn't already obvious. It would've been nice if he had said he was sorry this was painful for you and he understood why it was best that this not continue. But he was stubbornly not apologizing because "I told you up front..." Yeah, but that doesn't mean you can't feel sad that someone you liked got hurt, and supportive of them doing what they need to in order to avoid that pain in the future. I don't hate the guy, but that's a little callous. It's like if you have a full grocery cart and an old lady with a gallon of milk asks if she can check out in front of you. Anyone that declines that request because "I was here first" is technically within their rights, but that doesn't mean I'd want to go on a canoe trip with them.

Then again, if this guy was capable of all of that then maybe he'd be ready to reply to texts too. Hard to expect a guy that doesn't care during the 'relationship (?)' to start caring when you break it off.

Good luck with band guy.