Can I really do this #5

[Dtrmned]

No worries Steve.

I am patient. Just curious as to how this is all going to play out.

W is still very cold and distant. She still has great difficulty sleeping. This is a new thing for her, but if has been going on for a few months now. She used to be able to sleep until 7 or 8am, sometimes 9, lately it is up somewhere between 3-5am. Don't know if it is emotions, pain, or a combination. We have not had any significant conversation since Sunday. She did email yesterday and commented that it was easier to communicate that way since our conversations don't go well. I didn't take any bait, answered her question, and moved on.

Still greatly confused as to her timeline and if she even has one. What is her plan and does she even have one of those? She isn't working, won't look for a job, doesn't go anywhere, takes 2-3 hour naps a day, doesn't spend any money (there isn't very much in our joint account for things other than groceries).

Truly just very confused. Is she just shutting herself off or just shutting me out? I am not pursuing, I am in fact fairly detached. Over the last few weeks, I have made a concious effort to not even look in her direction as much as in the past. I am not ignoring her, just not giving her the attention I once was. This is doing wonders for me as it keeps my mind from wandering back to her. MUCH NEEDED!

With the kids going back to school in a few weeks, things are going to ramp back up again with schedules, etc. making things just a little more chaotic for her, but will also give her back her 5-6 hours of space each day while they are gone.

I don't know how that will change anything as she is so exhausted and shuttling the kids will only compound that issue.

But, who am I to say and who am I to know.

Just curious on feedback on this. AS had stated that he didn't like limbo as it made things mostly just "status quo" with no look towards any solutions, hence the reason for the ask.