Has it gone too far?

[jaylove]

I have two questions which (while I wait for my copy of DR) I would very much like some advice on because they are happening right now and I do not want to make matters even worse by reacting in the wrong way:

• When W talks of selling the house etc etc, do I just go along with it or do I put up resistance?
• She is almost certainly taking steps to file some kind of papers - not D but Separation. To do this she requires our marriage cert. I have taken this away. I know she was looking for it yesterday. Was this a mistake and if she confronts me do I deny all knowledge?

It's moving so fast. So hard.

Hiding the MC is a form of control, you’ve got to let her take the oath she is going to take, it will only antagonises her if you hide it. Re the house, if she truly wants to put the children first then I think it would be best to keep the children in the family home and your W to move out.