Feeling your pain jaylove. So hard to know how to behave; distance but don't act cold, engage confidently but don't say too much etc etc. It is such a balancing act. Also when some of things you've been accused of are what you are supposed to do for DB seem counter productive and more of the old behaviours. Waiting for my DB copy too so perhaps this may help.
You seem to be getting mixed messages from W too which I have experienced. Seems to be par for the course in these situations. I only conclude they are just not thinking straight.
