WAS or WHAT 11

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WAS or What 10

I just reread my first post of my previous thread and apart from some small modifications I could use it to start this thread. That says a lot in itself!!

Thanks SBJ and Gordie for your ongoing support and prayers

Gordie, i don't feel more trapped than before. I guess that because I am focusing on everything except my W that I can readily see a more fulfilling life without our poor interactions daily. In essencei sense that I have two paths ahead of me.
1. A better life with W
2. A better life without W.
I still have a preference for #1 but #2 is highly appealing too.

Another aspect of this concept is that I have greater self worth. I have little interest in spending time with people that don't want to or those that don't treat me right. I don't get upset of a friend doesn't reply to an invitation but I won't continue inviting him or her if that happens. I know W and kids are exceptions but anyone ANYONE else I could walk away from if mistreated. Don't worry I don't let kids and W mistreat me either.

My situation is complex with.many intertwining subtle factors that it isn't easy outline in a few words, but I hope that answered your question.

To briefly explain something else I stated yesterday about mini improvements observed. Following the guidelines in DB about setting mini objectives that if achieved show progress towards a main DB objective.WWell I have noticed a few of these, so there has been some progress.

However in recent months I have been less interested in.spending poor quality time with W nor putting in any effort to improve that time. The result has been less communication and less time together. I don't like that as it is the opposite of one of my goals BUT it has freed me up more quality ME time. Plus it is apparent she wants more. She seems frustrated at not doing more together and creates more opportunities for us to do stuff together. If I walk away due to not being interested in some poor behaviour or treatment more often than not she'll initiate something to break the ice. Whereas that is positive and not new, it never goes beyond restoring the status quo. I guess she doesn't want things to get worse but not ready to work towards making it better.

There are some other aspects to W that appear better. I imagine IS will be the last part to improve but if other stuff is going better within her, maybe that will lead her there.

I'll talk about me in a later post. Until then welcome to my latest thread. Best wishes