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She did text and call just when I left right after dropping off D3. Not much contact in the two days since. Hurting pretty bad tonight, want to save my marriage & family. Miss my daughter. Going to get her tomorrow afternoon. Meeting with a mentor tomorrow morning.

Yea Ill keep it short with W.


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W dropped off D3 earlier. Little back and forth on schedule etc. I was upbeat all smiles excited to see D3. W asks if I want to hug I said if you want long hug... BS tired of it. Yea it does effect me still. So no I am not completely detached. Read detachment thread a couple times yesterday.

No hugs? Just say no thanks next time?

Want the family and R but tired of not being able to do anything to make it happen. .


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Originally Posted by Did
No hugs? Just say no thanks next time?


Give her the ol' WAS hug. Hug her from the side and pat her back like a long-lost uncle.

^^And no, I'm not kidding!^^ If she wants a hug then give her that one, nothing more.

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She has been doing the whole rest her head on my chest long hug thing. She used to give me that WOS hug months ago. I should return the favor.


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Originally Posted by Did
She has been doing the whole rest her head on my chest long hug thing. She used to give me that WOS hug months ago. I should return the favor.


DEFINITELY! Make her learn to miss you. Don't be too available. Make her wonder what you're up to, and who you are doing it with.


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Ok. Did you or did you not give her a hug, I don't care if long or short. When she asked for a hug, did you?

You didn't really answer. Lol.

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She asked if I wanted a hug. I said if she wanted to give one. She then proceeded to rest her head on my chest for ten seconds and hug me while I held her... and back to divorce busting and all this sh*t


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W texts me asking how we are doing. After waiting a while I told her we were watching incredible show having movie night. She says she is hungover misses us wants a hug. Conversation went way too long. And I said way too much about her finding her passion for me and our family, she said she thinks a lot. I said if or when she wants to share everything like she did when I loved her that is when things may work.... Disappointed in myself. I did tell her I was going to continue to act as if we were broken up and that she wanted her separation now she has it. Said way too much though


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Don't be yourself up too bad. We all mess up. Just remember this feeling next time. Remember this very moment, and how it feels. It will help you hold off the next time.

Shrug off tonight, tomorrow is a new day. Wake up with a smile and go about your day with excitement. It's Friday!!!

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What do you think I should of said in response to her saying she misses us and wants a hug


H: 33 W:32
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MO: 6/2017
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Paying $ support since 7/18.
Physical Reconnect- 10/18
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