Gordie 21 going with my gut

[Gordie]

Recent events

Thanks for all of the advice about birthday and anniversary and vacation

I listened to all of the advice and went with my gut

I bought small gifts and invited w to do low key things with the expectation she may say no

She accepted my invitations and we enjoyed our time together like you would with a friend

I am now at the stage where I can spend time with her and not walk on eggshells in fear of what she may say or do

That is a recent development and an improvement for me

We also had the first real family vacation in the two years since B D

Kids had been bugging me to plan something so I discussed with w and we agreed on a plan

During vacation she surprisingly wanted to spend a lot of one on one time without the kids

During these quiet times she also held my hand which she has not done in a very long time

Over the last month we have been relatively conflict free

One incident happened which resulted in her not speaking to me for a good 24 hours

Rather than pursue her and try to make up for who knows what I just let her be silent until she came to me to tell me what was bugging her

It was in my mind a very small thing but to her it was a very big thing

So I just listened and genuinely said I was sorry for my thoughtlessness and would earnestly try to do better next time and then she let go of it

Hope all of you are enjoying your summers