My story. Advice needed

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I disagree about counseling. Going to counseling with a W who is in an open A is a complete waste of time and money.

I agree, but im not foing to discuss our M at all. It would be to discuss our son and how hes being hurt by this right now. W is clueless and thinks hes only being influenced by me and my thoughts on my W. Ive been really debating if its good or not to go. Just not sure anything positice can come out of it. Id like my W to go to IC, but she really needs a counselor to be honest with her, and not only that my W only tells the counselor bits and pieces of the story to influence what the counselor is thinking about her story. Its the equivalent of taking your car to the mechanic and telling them it only needs a little air in the tire when you know good and well the engine is knocking loudly and its running very rough. You cant get anywhere unless your open/honest, and I dont think my W is anywhere near ready to do that wity anyone, even a counselor who is only there for her. My W thinks very highly of herself, and there is a ton of pride there. She doesnt want anyone to view her in a negative light, that would start to burst her bubble. If there is anyone who questions her or tells her she is wrong, shell get defensive and cut them off.