Wow a very eventful few days!!! Congrats on the house. I get wanting to do reno...but I didn't see anything that needed to be rushed before moving in, unless you have the wiggle room..I don't remember, 1 bath or 2? Cuz that will make a difference...
Do what you need to do financially to make this happen. In the long run it will all work out.
As for the love life...I wanted to say some stuff this weekend and didn't but I will now...
Read below...
Originally Posted by Ginger1
This is a weird position for me I never imagined being in. I don't even know what to do. HC does not communicate at all. After a week he asks me how my week is. I say "very eventful" and he doesn't even bother asking what happened? Just radio silence. If I cut it off, I want it to be because it isn't working, not all because I am interested in someone else. Bandguy is going to be away for a long weekend. HC has not asked me out. And I am not asking him out.
On the topic of HC...you know what to do...you already know this isn't really working for you, for what you really want. If it was, you wouldn't be interested in anyone else.
You have a FWB...minus the friend IMO. More like a F-buddy...sorry for being so crude. If there was any friend in the equation, you would have a bit more contact or at least curiosity about your life. He is doing the smallest amount to keep in touch, to keep the option open.
As for bandguy...
Who knows where it will go. He is already showing you as much interest as is reasonable, without being over the top, when you just meet someone.
If you want to see what it can become, sit back and enjoy the ride. There are going to be things that you won't like and things you will. That is how relationships work. He is already more of a friend than HC is.
We don't talk as much as I might like, but I know you well enough to know that you are a good person. You need to begin to value yourself a bit more. And not accept less than you want from anyone. We always said around here that you teach people how to treat you. So teach whoever comes into your life that you are a strong, kind, funny person who needs to be viewed as more than a sexual creature. Trust me, when you do that and you find that person, the sex, is that much more amazing.
It doesn't happen overnight but it does happen.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox