Mrs JLS journey to saving the marriage

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Great job JLS!
The baby steps work. and then they don't, and then they may again. Issues I am working on is of course the patience and time. We all want it to be fixed now, back to our MR and a future. It just doesn't work that way. 1 step forward, 2 steps back. You will make mis steps. Recognize them quickly, adapt, even duck and cover if necessary. On my side, the other gender I mean, we look to be the fixer, to solve the issues quickly and move on. Not very patient and the LBH is fairly lost. I can only imagine what it feels like on your side as a LBW. My suggestion, FWIW, is to read through other's situations and see the similarities. EVERY sitch is "slightly" different. Ea/Pa, grown apart, your particular issues to overcome, so EVERYONE feels so isolated, alone and that their situation is so unique. If you pick away at the minutia (he likes dungeons and dragons and I am an athlete so we have nothing in common) anyone can justify S or D on its surface.

This board offers you the ability to read, reflect, comment on other situations and for also you to understand that although NONE are exactly the same, MOST are very similar so that gives us the ability to know that we are not alone. Many other couples experience this. Happiness and togetherness area choice.

Best advice from me IMO, be true to yourself. The introspective analysis into who you are, your personality, desires and future goals you have to be honest with. As far as MR, my personal view points is that outside of major issues (hard drugs, major abuse, infidelity, etc.) Happiness is a choice. I believe if you love someone, you will in some way love them forever. It is one of the strongest emotions we get to experience in our lives. It doesn't happen often (at least not for me. pushing 52 and only loved 3 women in my life. I would question one as more of puppy love as it was a long term high school romance, but it was true love. You can take the "life [censored]" approach. And many have been in and out of this realm very much from time to time

Somehow, our current spouses have the ability to close us out as they see the exit our of the MR as their "golden rainbow" to happiness.

Do you have to the time to DB, make it work and rekindle your MR?

No One Knows.

Me. together with my W for 21 years. She is still the sexiest, most attractive woman I have known. More importantly, outside of her health issues, she is a great mother. Hoping for the best in your situation!!!

Keep your head high!