I do imagine your life has many benefits to not being constantly in his toxic presence. There will be struggles and battles ahead but I believe the worst is behind you, especially as I am sure that you can handle whatever comes at you. I know you can.
Best wishes
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together