Thread #6: Piecing and R.....plus parenting a 15yo

[SteveLW]

Personally, I expect many on here slip into some new dysfunctional normal and get tired of reading and stop Dbing until the next BD.

Such a great point RR17. It really requires being diligent. It is funny because it is such a weird dynamic.

1) Soon-to-be LBS stops trying in the MR. Soon-to-be WAS at some point gives up and starts planning an exit strategy.
2) BD hits. LBS suddenly start trying. WAS is done and the trying by the LBS just pushes them away faster.
3) LBS finally detaches, WAS wonders what is up and starts sniffing around.
4) LBS gets to choose whether or not to allow for R, or continue with D.

Here is the tricky part:

5) If LBS moves to R,NOW is the time to implement the changes that they tried in #2.

If they fail in #5, 1-4 will eventually repeat.

Please all of you, keep me accountable to NEVER slip back into #1!