Thread #6: Piecing and R.....plus parenting a 15yo

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It Didn't Start On Bomb Day
a DBing Dissertation by Steve85

Just now seeing this. Great points, Steve. The problems didn't start on BD day. It takes some of the mystery out of the WAW's behavior. I'm not sure where the 2 years came from but I'm not sure it is incorrect either and really doesn't matter.

LBS will fight this. IMO, we have to reach a point before we are willing to accept many of the concepts of DBing. Detachment and NGS are two elements that I think get misunderstood. Boundaries is another.

Even though I believe that I understand Detachment, I sometimes find myself still non-detached. I think it is natural. Being aware is what is important.

Someone said that they thought that even with DB that the odds are stacked against the LBS. I disagree. One would have to have mastered the techniques early on and executed them to give it a fair assessment. Personally, I expect many on here slip into some new dysfunctional normal and get tired of reading and stop Dbing until the next BD.
Once the imminent threat subsides, it is easy to see why LBS would be quick to stop the hard work.
Look at one of the most basic principles. Don't pursue. I've read over and over where LBS are told this and they say, Okay, and then explain how they pursued. This is Detachment 101. If you can't stop pursuing how will you ever know if it works. No, it's not easy. Nobody ever said it was. I know that newbies don't want to speak of moving on. But the principals of DB will help you regardless if you are able to save this M/R or better prepare you for the next one.