What detaching with love means is to move your love to her from your heart to your mind. You archive it somewhere until a later time when you may retrieve it back. But for now, your target is to reach a point that whatever she says or does has no effect on your emotions. It’s not easy and takes time.
Me:49 XW:41, M:18 years, Kids: S18,S14 BD:JULY 2017, W moved out: DEC 2017 Filed for D: APR 2019, D Final: JULY 2019