Thank you for sharing additional info w/us. It sure sounds like she's off in La La Land. When you have an opportunity, read the homework in the Welcome Posting that Cadet created and also take a trip around the forum. You will see that many of the things that your W said are typical of someone in crisis. Her mother's passing fits the timeline of her downward spiral into MLC.
Protect your assets, i.e., bank accounts, credit cards, etc. Take time and check your credit history as you may not be aware of any additional loans/cards that she may have acquired leading up to her crisis. Many of them will begin to spend like crazy on stuff just to make themselves feel good. Some gamble, take up drinking/drugs and other addictive behaviors. All they want to do is feel better. They don't realize that being happy comes from within.
Please take care of yourself, try to keep the focus on you and your family. Dig deeper for patience as this is a very long process and one that will try your patience. It's not a sprint, but a marathon. Come here to vent, chat or ask questions.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
